Topic: God damn it!!!

Alright I hate coming to u guys for help cuz its probably a major pain in the ass for u guys always hearing bout my problems and shit, but anyway this is the new problem alright first my girl is suddenly hangin out with her friend and her boyfriend no big deal and shit. But today she went to a bday party for her friends boyfriends friend and i was like ok go have fun. These guys are 16 17 and 18 in and around there im 16 and goin on 17, Im wondering this girl broke up with me twice for another guy and even though she says i love u i have this part of me that says dude dont let her do it. Im trying my best to keep the relationship and i dunno if I could trust her man with these other guys. I wanna let her have her space and go out have fun but shes like quading with them and playign tackle football with em and im just afraid Ill lose her and even tho i have sooooo many probelems with her I do love her shes up there with the horror movies. Now shes goign to her friends boyfriends family picnick this sunday and Im like umm dont invite me I guees even tho i probably wouldnt go. Im starting to question this and her friend told her to break up wit me cuz im "pyschotic" NO SHIT TELL EHR SUMTHIGN SHE DOESNT NO and like her friends trying to hook her up with one of her boyfriends friends cuz apparentlly shes afraid to b alone with him i dunno wats going on but its deff. sumthign fishy round here. I Dunno what to do or wat to say cuz i no for a fact her friend will bug the fuck out of me til i give up and tell her to go. What would u guys do Ill lay it out for u
1 she has a histroy of breakign up with me for someone else
2 shes hanging out with these guys toooo much now
3 they think shes hot
4 they alll hate me for no fuckign reason
soo put urself in my shoes do i let her walk over me like she did or draw a line just that to me is soooo much bullshit and the best part they wanted to come see halloween with me. I draw the lien there and said HELLLL NO  this movie is importent to me and i dont want no fucking bitch and her fag bag boyfriend there cuz ill flip,
Soo help me again thanks u guys are really tooo good big_smile

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Listen, man.  You've had to many fucking problems with this chick.  It's time to let her go.  You should be having fun, not stressing over some chick who causes you way to much grief to begin with.  Let her go.  Just let her go.

That's my opinion...

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I would but i cant i lvoe her tooo much. theres just sumthing bout her that makes me feel good and like i dunno wat else to do i could try talking to her but she'll just go out with these guys to get me mad and jealous and shit sooo i dunno man

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Well the few parts I understood out of that, heres my advice.

First of all, if she gets invited places you should let her go. You cant keep her from friends and experiencing things she wants to.  If you did this and never let her do anything, you are just isolating her from experiencing a lot.  You are young and need to get out.  Plus letting her go places will help build trust, which it sounds like you dont have a lot of.  But that doesnt mean she always has to go by herself either.

Ok, she has a historyof breaking up with you.  Yeah thats a little tough to let her around other guys, but again you have to have some trust.  Trust seems to be one thing you dont have much of.  And you cant always live on past issuse either. 

Third, ok so they think shes hot.  Anytime you have a girlfriend, it is inevitable that someone thinks they are hot or are checking them out.  Unless they do something stupid because of it like grope her or something drastic, there is no need to worry about who thinks shes hot. Let them be jealous they cant have a hot girl like her.  You gotta realize you and them are nothing but young highschool guys with raging hormones, so someone is bound to think shes attractive.  You cant hold it against them.  Be thankful they think shes attractive and not a walking monster.

One last thing: try and get more involved.  Go places she goes if you can.  You dont always have to let her on her own.  And if you go somewhere with other people and they do something you dont like, dont snap.  You cant be this high stung and over protective of her if you want it to work, you gotta be reasonable with her and her friends.  Likewise she needs to do the same, but i think you two need to sit down and have a serious talk cause if you ask me the whole relationship sounds like a timebomb waiting to explode.  No offense.

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Alright Sicker. I know for how long you've been having so many problems with her and you seriously need to let her go. I completely understand how you are feeling and what you are feeling for her. But she's treating you like shit and you don't need it and deserve it. If this is your first love, then you have to let her go once and for all just how she's been treating you. She's not worth having around and i bet you the only reason why she's keep on doing this to you, is that she is telling you something but she doesn't know how to tell you. Your young and still have your whole life ahead of you. Let her go and live. Your still in high school and when you get into college all of that will change. I know it's really hard, but love is not a 2 way highway. And how your relationship is going, it's going in 2 different opposite directions. See you're the only one that loves her, but she's not loving you back. You have to come to reality and think of everything that she has done to you and how you have been being treated, which is like crap. There are so many women out there and you're gonna love them and be dating alot. I know it is going to be really hard. But trust me. Letting her go will do your soul and physicality and mentality good for you. I hope what i said helped you out.

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Both of u have advice but this is the same path the same ONE we took in Januray and I trust u a lil bit but this is all the same with me, Her friends hate me they try to hook her up with another friend i get pissed and a fight starts she b/u with me for the fag bag and then finally understanding she cant live without me. Im just soooo fuckign confused right now Im like 3 miles away from her and this shit still follows me man, its fucking bullshit, yea i wanna let her have her fun but she just cant get all my trust in a day u no. Shes lucky she got to go to that bday party now not even a week later she wants to hang out at some family thing that she doesnt no anyone jsut cuz her friend wants sumoen there. Last tiem i checked u didnt need a friend to go to a party man its soooo confusing its not even funny man. JMH trust is the biggest thign and i have a lil bit for her but she has to earn it a lil bit at a time. I just feel lefted out man, now tell me if this is fair I was TALKING to my ex of less then a week, just bullshiting cuz we had a great talkign relationship and my girlfriend flipped cuz shes like oh shes gonna b all over u in ur movie and shes gonna be like Oh my god drew ur sooo funny and shit. My girlfriend and her sister stasrted shit with her and then she quit the mom ruined my movie and She barely never talks to me anymore hwo the fuck is fair?? Im on vacation in virginia beach and its the boringest place on earth no girls no nothign and she thinks im gonna do sumthign. I dont have the history of cheatin on my hands.

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You talk about her flipping out when you talked to an ex when you rant and go off when she does the same thing.

I dunno what else to tell you man.  It's like a broken record.  We all try to give advice, then you throw examples at us about how we are wrong or why you do what you do.  It's a never ending cycle and I think you and her either need to sit down and hash shit out or move on.  Plain and simple.

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Jim said it perfectly, man.  Sort your shit out.  Is this chick really worth it?

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All I can say is: would you like some cheese with that whine?

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i had the same problem as you quite a few years ago.mine was going out to places i wasnt invited and her guy friends all had a beef with me and i eventually found out something was going on.i say dump her ass cuz if she truly loves you she would make sure your invited and simply not ignored.or you could just toss her down a flight of stairs

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Life should be enjoyable...its all about choices, your choices. Life is a journey, you Can't force happiness.
1- she has a history of breaking up...its about emotional growth this has its ups and downs, but thats how everyone grows emotionally.
2- hanging out with guys they think she is hot...everybody likes to be validated made to feel special, she is drawing on these "good feelings" by being "sought after". Give her space, she needs to feel independent.
But **** in little ways spoil her...nothing over the top, or expensive.
flowers (grocery stores have nice arrangements at the checkout)
send her a romantic card through the mail
get a pretty gift bag and fill it with her favorite candies..m&m's gum, twizlers
buy a stone like a raw amethyst or citrine at a rock shop
make a mix of songs about how you fel about her cd..some upbeat some more foundational
these are just suggestions..and don't give to her and then EXPECT her to react, just spoil her in stride.
4- they all hate you....your competing for her time, they may be jeleous too.

Take a deep breath, don't get stuck in the seriousness. Besides you are important, don't let this relationship distract you from what you need to do. ie. study, work, having fun with your freinds.

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As was once said in Animal House by Belushi:

"My advice for you is to start drinking very heavily":lol:

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Between Jmh, and DeadShallRule, you've got two very viable ways to go.  You can drop her, or spoil her.  It's up to you to decide whether the baggage that comes with the girl ain't worth carrying, or worth purchasing.

But the longer you keep tearing yourself up like this the more Skincarver's solution is going to sound better.  and believe me... Going all Tommy Udo on her would be bad for your YOUR health.

Assuming you don''t know who Tommy Udo is...
[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/v/FHHJsXH3BiU[/youtube]

Last edited by Mirthquake (2007-08-23 07:55:30)

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sickfuck please choose the title of your posts better. I for one dont like logging on to see a forum topic of "God Damnit"

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Sick, dude, mi amigo, we have been over this time and time again. I have always said you need to have a sit down with her or call it off just like some of the other guys have said here. It's time to shit or get off the pot, deal with how miserable you are or cut her punk ass loose. If she dosen't invite you to things she dosen't want you there for a reason. I'm not saying she's cheating but maybe she likes to flirt with the other guys and can't do it in front of you. Seriously, if she is making your life that damn miserable walk away, find someone else, get into your script writing, or work harder on making your movies. If she can find other shit to do so can you, when she wants to hang tell your busy, go hang with other friends. Do something is the point. It's all up to you to decide how much of this shit you're gonna put up with and we can talk all day long but until you decide you've had enough, it won't mean a damn thing.

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Your right H2K and I was wondering also why she doesn't invite you to parties she goes to. hmm I don't know why your putting yourself through this shit. You say you love her..... but I don't know about that!

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oh p.s. thank you sick for reminding me of all the reasons i gave up on dating a loooonnng time ago

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skincarver wrote:

oh p.s. thank you sick for reminding me of all the reasons i gave up on dating a loooonnng time ago

Yeah, internet porn is the best!:lol:

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Meh wrote:

sickfuck please choose the title of your posts better. I for one dont like logging on to see a forum topic of "God Damnit"

Yeah not the best chosen title. 

And LMFAO at the post about "cheese with that whine" coming from "TheOneAndOnly" with the Uwe Boll flipping the bird avatar.  lol

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Dump her.  Or, let her dump you.  Either way, the relationship's not doing either of you any good.  It's okay to be in love with someone but also realize at the same time it's just not going to work.  You're both young, you've both still got a lot to learn about relationships and you're both about to become adults.  Time to stop playing games and get serious. 

You're either happy with her, or you're not.  If you're not, then you're wasting time dealing with all this when you could instead be looking for someone who treats you RIGHT, and who you won't spend most of your time being jealous of.

I see this all the time in my line of work.  We call it the "beaten dog" syndrome.  If you beat a dog for years and years, you can let him go and he'll come right back because that's the only life he knows.  Same here; stay in these kinds of relationships too long and you'll just keep coming back to them.  What you're doing right now is not allowing yourself to see how a HEALTHY relationship works.  You're keeping yourself locked in this dysfunction, and it's going to get to a point where you stay in these kinds of relationships because of familiarity.

"But I love her soooooo much," you say.  Big deal.  Love ain't worth shit if it's not returned, which it seems not to be.  Go find yourself someone better.  Judging from what you've been saying about this girl, it shouldn't be too hard.  And if you do find someone better, give her some room to breath. 

As someone said above, there's always going to be someone who thinks your girlfriend's hot.  So try and have some confidence in the fact that whoever you end up with, that girl's with you for a reason.  It should make you proud when some other dude flashes eyes at your girlfriend, not jealous and suspicious.  After all, this woman getting everyone's attention is with YOU -- not them.

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jmh314 wrote:

And LMFAO at the post about "cheese with that whine" coming from "TheOneAndOnly" with the Uwe Boll flipping the bird avatar.  lol

That was a good first post for sure lol

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Again my advice to you is to start drinking very heavily and hit some strip clubs when you are old enough.:lol:

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alrite look, heres my advice to you, im not gonna type a long ass respose like i usually would. heres wat i think, sit down and talk with her, communication is the best thing in a relationship, talk to her about all of what your feeling and how what she does makes yo feel, and dont get mad and start yelling. and if you find that after you talk with her that you are still pissed about this shit, then just leave her. i kno it will hurt and shit like that, but leave her, and DONT TURN BACK. gonna emphesise that, dont go back to her again cuz she will know that she can pull around your heart and you will always be there to take her back when she realizes she made a mistake, but you wont be.

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Here maybe this will help you.  I saw it as Yahoo's top story.  Seems relevant.  The article is called: Are you too clingy?

http://health.yahoo.com/experts/menlove … too-clingy

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First and foremost she should be your freind. is she?